I have been married to my wonderful husband for twenty-five years. We were married when I was twenty-five and he was twenty-six, so I’ll let you do the math on how old we are. In our twenty-five-year-old marriage, my husband has been cuckolded now for fifteen years. He has been experimenting the male chastity as well. We have been living a cuckoldry marriage now longer than we lived a traditional marriage.
The first six years of our marriage were very traditional and very vanilla. We were the perfect couple, we did everything together and we had great sex. About year six, we became involved in D&s. That is a long story in itself and I will not go into that here due to time. We were both switches for the first two years of our D&s life, as we rotated between being the Dom and the sub. About year eight of our marriage, we both came to the mutual realization and decision that I was a natural Dom and he was a natural sub. I have embraced my true and natural Dominant Persona and my husband has embraced his true and natural submissive Persona for the past 17 years.
Like most Dominant Women, once I discovered and embraced my dominant nature, there was no going back and I ran with it. These past 17 years have been the best of my life, especially in the area of my sexuality. Only a Dominant Woman who discovers and unleashes her dominant energy is capable of experiencing sex on this higher level. I use to think I had good orgasms but once I discovered female domination and female supremacy, sex and orgasms moved into a whole new world of intensity and pleasure.
How to Succeed with a Cuckold Marriage?
That brings me to the topic of cuckolding. Cuckolding is like dynamite if used properly, it is a very powerful tool but if used incorrectly, it will blow your handoff. I have talked with and counseled a number of women over the years who really screwed up their lives and marriages because of cuckolding.
But as I would listen to the stories of unwanted pregnancies, venereal disease, and broken homes I wanted to scream out “You foolish girl, you have no one to blame but yourself”. You don’t hold a piece of dynamite with a lit fuse and expect not to be hurt. There are two absolutes I have learned about women. One, all women are superior to men. And two, not all women are equal in intelligence and common sense. You don’t sleep with strange men and you always use a condom. Period, no exceptions. The safe sex rules of cuckolding are no different than the safe sex rules of dating for singles. It’s a dangerous world out there so keep your wits about you and always use sound judgment and good old common sense.
Why choose cuckolding?
The politically correct things to say within the cuckolding world are “I only cuckold my husband because I want to drive him into deeper submission to me” or “I only cuckold my husband because he enjoys it as well. If he didn’t enjoy it then I wouldn’t do it to him.” Both of these commonly used statements are correct and that should be a part of the process but I also cuckold my husband because I am a selfish bitch.
I enjoy having sex with another man (and occasionally another woman) while I sexually deny and humiliate my husband. There, I admitted it. I like to date other men. Also, I like the whole process from start to finish. I love my husband and I include him in the cuckolding because I want him to be humiliated. Obviously, I want to drive him into deeper submission to me, and I feel it is his husbandly duty in a Female Supremacist Marriage. Cuckolding is an important part of who I am, what I believe, and what I am all about. It is not just a Domination and submission game or activity but it is a declaration and a lifestyle.
As I said, I love the whole process. I love flirting with attractive men and asking them out on a date. Moreover, I love teasing my husband about it and making him prepare me for my dates. Going on a date, meeting, and experiencing a new man is really exciting. I love the first kiss, the first touch, the fondling, the passion, and yes, I LOVE the sex. In fact, I love tormenting and humiliating my husband during and after the sex. I love the power I feel and I love what it does to me as a Dominant Woman. And above all, I love what it does to my husband as a submissive man. You don’t know control and power over a man until you have cuckolded him, especially if you incorporate male chastity along with cuckolding.
Why use orgasm denial with your husband?
Let me discuss the importance of it as it relates to cuckolding. The whole cuckolding process is about Female liberation and male acceptance of the superiority of women. It is about a total and complete power exchange from the submissive husband to the superior wife. It is about humiliating the husband for the wife’s sexual pleasure.
What cuckolding is not about is swinging or orgies. I may on rare occurrences allow my husband to serve me or even service me in some manner while my lover is having sex with me, but that is because it will further my pleasure and that is what I am in the mood for that night. However, my husband is never allowed to orgasm in the presence of my lover. My husband exists to serve me. He does not exist for his own selfish pleasure. It is all about my pleasure and my pleasure is enhanced by my knowledge that my husband is aroused, frustrated, and denied.
As a female supremacist, I do not believe in the male orgasm and I do not sanction the male orgasm. I only allow my lover to orgasm because I know that it will add to my husband’s humiliation. The same goes for intercourse. My husband is not permitted intercourse with me but I allow my lover the right to intercourse only because I know it will add to my husband’s humiliation and shame. For some women, the same can be said for sucking a man’s penis. Most female supremacists will never do that disgusting act to any man for any reason. But there are some women who on very rare occasions will make an exception and do it to their lover because they want to add to their husband’s humiliation and frustration.
How often and for how long do I deny my husband?
For the past fifteen years, my husband has had zero orgasms through intercourse. I allow my husband to enter me with his penis two or three times a year only because I don’t want him to ever forget the pleasure that he is missing the other 362 days of the year. On those few days that I allow him to enter me, I am always on top and he is not permitted to move a muscle. I may just hold still to allow him to feel my warmth or I may even give him a few humps just to remind him what he is missing. But after a few very brief minutes, I pull off of him, and back into frustration he goes.
Also, the entire time I allow him to be inside of me, I am softly whispering to him to tease him about how my lovers are permitted this pleasure all the time but he will never be permitted to orgasm inside of me again. As I said, I only allow my husband these brief encounters two or three times a year, and only so he doesn’t forget what he is missing when I am with my lover. It adds to the mind games and mental domination.
Milking or humiliation?
Besides being denied intercourse with me, my husband is denied any type of orgasm most of the time. I tried to permanently deny my husband but we didn’t quite make it. He could go about a month to six weeks but then he would have a wet dream or an accidental climax during our D&s sessions. Even if he was in a chastity device, he would on occasion orgasm when I was taking him with my strap-on.
So, I decided that instead of wasting my valuable time in figuring out how to prevent this or going through the exhausting effort of giving him prostate milking, I decided it was easier and more enjoyable to allow him one or two very humiliating orgasms per month. I talked this over with a few women and the consensus is that if a man’s orgasm is permitted in a non-intimate and degrading way, it still qualifies as a permanent denial. What’s the difference if he has it through a milking or via humiliation?
Therefore, my husband only receives one or two supervised and very degrading orgasms per month. I enjoy this as a female supremacist because his rare orgasms become very entertaining for me. My favorite is to make him hump an inanimate object before another woman while I verbally degrade him. He will hump the floor, or a chair, or the bed, or the boots I am wearing, or whatever other nasty things I think of.
My husband wears a chastity device most of the time so I know he isn’t being a bad boy behind my back. We own three, the CB2000, the Chastity Tube, and the Access Denied. I change them up for variety but he seems to be the most comfortable in the Access Denied. The CB2000 is best when traveling. Is it hard for him to be frustrated and denied? You bet it is and I love it. What fun would it be for me if he loved being denied? It does make him more submissive toward me, so he loves that aspect of it but no man really enjoys being teased and denied all of the time. Well, mentally they do but sexually and physically they don’t. His discomfort and frustration with the male chastity add to my sexual excitement and sexual fulfillment.
Who do I cuckold my husband with?
This is the most important part of the entire cuckolding process. Basically, I cuckold my husband with a man that I am very attracted to and one that I know my husband will be jealous of. What fun is there in cuckolding your husband with a man that he approves of? He has no right to question my choices and he must accept and yield to my choices. Who is the liberated wife? Who is the Dom here?
Therefore my husband has no say or input on whom I date. If he doesn’t struggle with at least a little jealousy and envy then he will not be humiliated and thus he will not slip into subspace. I want him to choose submission over his jealousy but I have to present the choice before he can choose.
So, I like to date young and good-looking men!
I want my husband to feel threatened. I want him to double and triple his efforts in serving me and in making sure I am happy and the better looking my date, the more threatened my husband becomes and the more eager he is to please me. At the start of all this, I told my husband that I would never leave him for another man and I meant that.
There is not a man alive that I would rather be married to than my husband but I am not unaccustomed to using my husband’s insecurities to get him to become a better servant and submissive. I still tell him that I love him and I will never leave him but then there are times that I will tease him mercilessly about how much better my lover is in bed than he ever was.
With that said, I look for a man that I am attracted to and sexually aroused by. I have never cuckolded my husband with a borderline man. In fact, I have always cuckolded my husband with a man that I found very sexy and a man that I wanted. I want a man that is younger than my husband, more muscular than my husband, and if at all possible, better hung than my husband. If you are going to cuckold your husband, why do it with a little man with a puny cock? Do it with a stud with a stud’s cock. Do it with a man that you want to fuck.
Where do I find my lovers?
Let me begin by saying where I don’t find them. Never date a man from work. Never pick a man up in a bar. Never date one of your husband’s friends or co-workers. Never pretend that you are single when talking with a man. Always be honest about your marital status.
The majority of the men that I have found in recent years have been through my FemDom support group and Slave Selection. I have also a personal ad on sugar baby and I get many replies from very wealthy men but if the man doesn’t follow my direction in the ad, I don’t answer him. I want a picture and he has to be submissive who believes in female domination.
When I answer an ad, I ask very direct and personal questions and I pull no punches. Then, I say upfront that I am happily married but that I am looking for a lover. I want him to be submissive but not passive. I want my husband to be passive, not my lover. Also, I ask the man to give me his correct name, age, birth date, occupation, height, weight, build, penis size measured from the top of the shaft to the tip of the penis, and sexual history. I have found two very good lovers through Slave Selection but you must be extremely patient and you must have a thorough screening process.
My own Superior Females website
The best way I have found lovers is through the FemDom group I help run. We are a small group of only five couples and I have no intention of growing. If one couple leaves, I add one couple to replace them. We started out with the intention of building a large support group but it has become a great ground for meeting and screening single submissive men. I have an obscure website that can be only found through Slave Selection and one other contact service.
On my site, I talk about our group and how we are looking for a very few select single men to join in order to serve us, Superior Females. I get quite a number of inquiries and I again make them go through my screening process before I invite them to a group function. Obviously, I ask the same questions as above but I omit the questions about his penis size and sexual history. I definitely require a photo. If the man piques my interest, I arrange a phone call. If he still piques my interest, I invite him to a play party. There, I will get to examine his body as well as his personality. I have found the majority of my dates and lovers through our support group. The average party consists of five couples and a select few single submissive men.
How do I keep the same single submissive men from coming to every party?
I let them know upfront that because we are a small group with limited space and because so many singles want to attend, they will only be invited to one initial party. Once a year we throw a big fetish bash at a very large commercial dungeon and I will invite all the selected men to that annual bash but not to another monthly party. Unless there is a single man that I or one of the other wives are interested in dating. Then the interested wife will call the man up and ask him on a date. If he becomes a lover to one of the wives, he is of course invited to the monthly parties. The key to my success rate is the screening process. I weed out most men before they ever get an invite to one of our parties.
To be continued