What a Femdom Mistress Truly Wants
The first thing you need to understand about meeting a femdom mistress is that in spite of theories to the contrary, mistresses are people too, and they pretty much like the same things that most other people like. Among these things a femdom mistress wants respect.
I’m not talking about giving them the fawning, self-debasing awe that we see in personal ads – you know what I am talking about, “Most high femdom mistress whose toe funk I am unworthy to sniff …” Praise of this kind can be taken to the extremes of hilarity, and is a fun game to play once established in a relationship. I am talking about simple, common (I often wonder exactly how common) respect that all people deserve: respect for her intelligence, respect for her personality, and just plain old personal respect.
A Dominant Woman Comes In all Forms
The second thing you need to understand about mistresses is that they are women (and I wonder if there isn’t a little girl inside some of them). I imagine that they like to be treated like women. Finally, they are dominant females. They can also be a number of other things in between including mothers, gardeners, computer programmers, bicyclists, book readers, and sports fans – all the more levels on which you can relate to them.
The key is to relate to them first on a human level, then on a woman level, and finally on a female dominant level. Try to envision them as real people. Ignore, for the moment, the image of a leather-clad beauty in spiked-heeled boots. Chances are that’s not what she’s wearing when she’s reading the net anyway. If you saw this dominant woman dressed in normal clothing, and you met her in the supermarket, or on the tennis court, or coming out of an office building, how would you go about meeting her?
It’s unlikely that you’d immediately throw yourself on the floor in front of her and kiss her feet. Women tend to run away from people like that or call the police, or both. Chances are you would look for an opening and use it. Something like: “I heard what you said about … and I am interested.” or “That’s a great backhand you have.”
A Traditional Courtship Works With A Femdom Mistress
So why would it be any different on the net? Why is it that some people think that just because a woman is dominant, she is some sort of a slut? A sexually aggressive woman is not necessarily a sexually free woman. Yet most of the clueless subs on the net post articles or personals which are about as tasteful as walking up to a woman and asking her, “Wanna fuck?” This isn’t exactly a bad statement – later on in the relationship. As an opening line, however….generally it sucks.
Whatever happened to good old-fashioned courtship? Try treating a potential femdom mistress as a person first, a woman second, and a dominant female third, and then if the response is good, as a potential sexual partner. There’s no magic formula here. You are going to have to feel your way. Communication and social skills will get you a long way down the road.
To Attract A Dominant Female A Man Must Be A Good Sub
If you are going to attract a dominant female, you will have to offer her something – offer her the most important thing you have – you! If you are out for more than a temporary female-led relationship, you’ll have to do more than just pay for it. Make her want you, make her want to dominate you. To do this, you have to be a good sub.
If she doesn’t want to dominate you, there is nothing you can do to make her dominate you. The best you can do is educate her on what female domination is, and why it is important to you. Then you can hope that she wants to dominate you. More important than getting her to understand you are to understand her. What are her real objections to domination? Getting the answer out of her is going to take good communication skills.
Wow! That is very interesting how you put that. I never gave that a thought but of course a dominant female is just a normal human being who has dominant tendencies. Respecting her for who she is could be the best thing that can be done. Thank you so much for that article.