First Time Female Submission Nervous
Every sub goes though it. You may be going through it now. Those butterflies in your stomach because you’ve just set a date for your initial meet. Things are still so new and exciting. You don’t know what to expect or how you will react to things. It’s all so strange and foreign feeling. You aren’t alone. Even the most experienced submissive can go through the butterflies before meeting but there are ways to learn to relax and be a bit more prepared for what might happen at your first female submission play session.
1. Communicate with your Mistress beforehand.
Make sure that she understand you’re nervousness. Ask them lots of questions about what might be expected or you can even specify what you would like to experience. Don’t take it too extreme that first time. You have all the time in the world to get to know what you both want and what satisfies you both. If you aren’t sure if you like pain at all, don’t hide that from the Mistress. The point of this is to keep the lines of communication open. They want you to enjoy yourself as much as they want to enjoy the experience. Find out what they will expect of you well in advance.
2. Learn about what is going to happen.
If the Mistress has a spanking planned and you don’t know a lot about consensual spanking, read about it. Go on forums and ask questions, become familiar with the terms and knowledge available to you. If you must, look at pictures and porn related to the event. Knowing about what will happen will help you calm your nerves.
3. Inform someone that you are going on a date
This doesn’t have to be elaborate. Just let someone else know that you are going on a date, of if they are into BDSM, be upfront and say it’s a date, and ask them to call you at a specified time. The phone call is just to check if you are okay. You can get fancy with a code if you want to, but there usually isn’t a need. I’ve heard that someone has the code, ‘Can you let the dog out?’ as meaning I’m in trouble or uncomfortable, I need to get out but can’t. So far they haven’t used this code.
4. Breath a lot
Taking deep breaths will relax your beating heart and help you absorb what is happening a lot easier than panicked gasps for air. You’ve been waiting a long time for this moment, enjoy it.
Great article and good advice for nervous first-time subs.
I’m a dominatrix not a sub but one added suggestion I would have to a first-time sub is to avoid masturbating or getting any form of sexual release at least a week before your first session. The horniness and urge to submit to a beautiful woman will easily overwhelm any feelings of nervousness and help get you into the right frame of mind for the session.