My name is Jenyfer and today I live a happy life with my submissive husband, firmly under my control. It was a sometimes complicated journey, full of obstacles. My decision to place our marriage under my authority was a major step. But above all, putting my submissive husband in chastity was the most decisive step, giving me the life I always desired and deserved.
It took me over forty years to get here, with everyday challenges. I will explain how I succeeded. I hope this will help you understand the perspective of a “wicked bitch,” as I’m sometimes called (with good reason ).
I was raised by a single mother, with three younger siblings I had to care for. So, I had a lot of responsibilities early on. I had to be quite authoritative to make it work. I started my studies, but soon became pregnant and married a violent man at twenty-one. That first marriage lasted four years. I eventually divorced and swore never to remarry. I resumed my studies at night, then went to law school, becoming a lawyer while raising my daughter.
From Dissatisfaction to Dominance: Transforming My Marriage
About five years ago, I met a kind, gentle, and caring man. I ended up remarrying. He was different from the men I’d known before. I’m mixed-race, and he was also the first white man I dated. I was happy to have someone in my life, but the marriage wasn’t truly satisfying.
To top it all off, my husband lost his job and couldn’t find another. Fortunately, my career was progressing well at the time. I became a partner at the law firm where I worked, so I could support us financially. However, I started resenting being the breadwinner. Moreover, my husband completely failed to satisfy me in bed. I could no longer tolerate his weakness, indecision, and the fact that I had to support him financially.
Last year, I sat him down and told him our marriage was over because I was too dissatisfied. As expected, he cried like a little girl and begged me. He needed me and was willing to do anything I wanted to stay together. Since I still enjoyed his company, I told him we could stay together on the condition that he make my life easier and take on a new role in our relationship.
Enforcing Control: My Journey to a Chastity-Led Marriage
In truth, since he wasn’t working and couldn’t make decisions, my old authoritative instincts were resurfacing more and more. All I had to do was formalize things by deciding to live in a relationship officially under my authority. He accepted his new role quite easily. However, he sometimes resisted doing certain things, like having to ask my permission for everything and not having his own money. But the first few months worked well for us.
Gradually, he started to slack off. He continued, at times, to pester me for sex, even though I had clearly stated it wouldn’t happen anymore. To make matters worse, I discovered he was spending most of his time at home masturbating, which explained a lot. I then did extensive research on Female-Led Relationships and changed the rules again. He reluctantly agreed to wear a chastity cage.
After a few weeks in the cage, he seemed to adjust and stopped complaining. But in the following months, he slipped again. One day, I caught him red-handed. I discovered he was managing to slip out of the chastity cage and pleasure himself. Unfortunately for him, I chose a much more fitted cage that completely blocked all access.
My Submissive Husband: Chastity for Perfect Obedience
Since this change, if he behaves well, he is briefly released once a week. I guarantee you, he’s become a very good boy since. The cage has finally made him completely obedient and submissive. Our marriage is now perfect as far as I’m concerned.
Ultimately, I refuse to apologize for living like a successful man.
At home, I have a “wife,” or rather a submissive little husband, who does all the chores and makes my life as easy as possible. He’s completely dependent on me and jumps when I give him an order. Moreover, he must accept that I have an active and fulfilling sex life outside the marriage. His chastity cage is fundamental. It’s a simple reward-and-punishment system that keeps him in line and entirely at my disposal. That’s how I got here. In short, it took time, but I have the life that suits me.
Chastity Control: Transforming Our Marriage Through Discipline
Using the chastity cage in our relationship is simply a matter of control. It’s not about causing him pain. However, since he lacks self-discipline and motivation, the chastity cage keeps him focused. It also provides a perfect reward/punishment system. He doesn’t love it day-to-day, but he understands it has saved our relationship.
Before, I was always frustrated and angry with him. He was ashamed of his laziness and lack of self-control. Now, I’m happy and grateful, and he has what he needs to satisfy and serve me well. We are both in our natural roles. Our relationship is healthier than it’s ever been.
Thanks to chastity, I have leverage. My husband has gained twenty kilos since we married. He really let himself go and eats poorly. So, I set a goal: he must lose half a kilo per week. I weigh him every weekend.
Rewarding Discipline: How Chastity Motivates His Transformation
So far, he’s met his goal every week (except one) and has already lost 10 kilos. He feels proud and accomplished. Plus, he has more energy and is happier. He would never have changed his diet or exercised without the incentive of his weekly release from the cage, and he acknowledges it. In my experience, the carrot works much better than the stick.
Another thing: when we go out, he must wear a girdle under his clothes because I refuse to be seen with a sloppy man. He hates it because it’s uncomfortable. However, he knows that once he reaches his goal, he won’t have to wear it anymore. This has motivated him to lose even more weight some weeks. So, once again, I see that the hope of a reward motivates him to do what’s good for him.
Every Sunday, if he’s earned it, I unlock his cage, and he’s free to do what he wants. I have no desire to watch or supervise him. So, I leave him alone and hope he enjoys himself. In fact, I want him to be motivated and behave well until the next release. Then, the cage goes back on, and we start a new week. I leave him alone to have fun.
Thus, I allow him to masturbate, and the balance between rewards and punishments makes our relationship under my supremacy work well.
Embracing Female Supremacy: My Journey with a Submissive Husband
In any case, I have full authority over him. Granting him pleasure doesn’t diminish my domination. I think it’s neither realistic nor productive to permanently deny a submissive husband any sexual gratification.
On the other hand, corporal punishment is not part of our relationship. The cage keeps him focused. The only punishments are the loss of certain privileges, like surfing the internet or watching TV. His weekly release is the carrot that keeps him motivated. So, I don’t really need to use the stick.
Generally, as an assertive and dominant woman, I’m seen as a wicked bitch. And I admit I’m selfish and harsh with my submissive husband. I’d like to share this experience of a female supremacy relationship with those considering the same thing.
For me, you can’t “chase away the natural” because it always comes galloping back! You can’t change a person’s deep nature. I’m a naturally assertive, decisive, and selfish Alpha woman, while my husband is a naturally weak and submissive Beta man. That’s how I took control of our relationship, and he became my submissive husband. He didn’t resist much due to his nature.
A true Alpha man would never allow his wife to cage him and strip him of his masculinity. So, even if some women want to take control, if their husband isn’t naturally submissive, he won’t accept it.
Conversely, some men want their partner to take control. However, if she isn’t naturally dominant, she won’t be comfortable, and female supremacy won’t work.
Firm but Fair: Mastering Discipline in Our Chastity Dynamic
Above all, for this type of relationship to work, you must be firm but fair. Consistent at all times, with a transparent reward-and-punishment system. My husband knows exactly the rules and what I expect of him. If he fails or disobeys me, he knows the punishment that awaits. If he pleases me and completes all his tasks, he knows he can count on a reward, i.e., a release from his chastity cage.
Sometimes, I’m in a bad mood and feel like taking it out on him, but I don’t because it wouldn’t be fair.
Conversely, sometimes I find him touching, but I stick to the rules. For example, he knows he must lose half a kilo per week because he’s overweight, and I want him slim. The other day, I weighed him on our precision scale, and he missed his goal by 100 grams, resulting in staying caged for an extra week. He was almost in tears, and I really felt sorry for him. However, it was important to be consistent, maintain discipline, and keep the cage.
Chastity’s Power: Humbling Masculinity for Female Supremacy
Another of my rules is no whining or complaining. He had to just accept it and knew that if he begged me to release him, I’d add another week of chastity. Harsh, but fair.
The chastity cage was necessary for security. But it goes far beyond that. Men have a sense of pride and arrogance simply from having a penis. A good, well-fitted cage removes all access to his dick and even makes him more feminine.
Indeed, he can no longer get an erection, and it also forces him to squat to urinate. This has a huge psychological and humiliating effect on a man, making him far less arrogant, provocative, or macho, and eradicating the masculine traits that hinder female supremacy. For my husband, it had an immediate effect on his personality and positively changed his attitude.
Managing his chastity gives me all the control I need. He’s desperate to be released, and that’s enough to keep him productive and well-behaved.
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To be continued.
