A Life of Devotion: 40 Years of Living and Leading Through Female Led Relationships

Serving women is what I live for.

Female Led Relationships mean more to me than providing my partner with pleasure and satisfaction. I seek to uplift and improve the lives of all the women I meet. I want every encounter I have with any Female, to be beneficial to their life, even if they do not dominate me. I strive to be more than just respectful. I want to be impactful.

As a mature male, normally dominant and aggressive, I am preparing to retire from a position managing a group of primarily women, and it is gratifying to reflect on the constant effort I’ve made empowering women, whenever I possibly could. I recognize my position of privilege due to my gender, race, health, physical size and abilities, wealth, age, education, citizenship, housing and employment. While the intersection of these factors inherently benefited me, I consider it my responsibility to use this privilege in the service of women.

My journey to Female Led Relationships did not begin with an altruistic intent. Like most males, the concept of Female Domination, with an overriding BDSM perspective, was for me, the original motivating desire as a young man.

I knew I was submissive as a teen. Probably as the result of discovering BDSM material of my parents when I was in grade school. I was hooked on pornographic magazines. Images of submissives being punished were powerful and over time I would find myself in non-sexual submissive situations.

Before asking my future spouse about marriage, I told her about my need to submit. She understood that I was a submissive masochist, yet, I was so foolish. I failed to focus on what was important to her. I could have humbly offered myself to support her, please her, and improve her life in so many ways, which in that moment, we could not even imagine. But no, I was so focused on what I wanted. Even so, she graciously agreed to give me what I said I needed, and we married. That was more than 40 years ago.

After a few years, she no longer wanted to participate in dominating or punishing me. She acknowledged that I would still have the need to submit and she expected me to seek out professional domes. She made it very clear to me that she did not want to know about it.

I remained in the marriage, honored my vows, and never sought or served any other woman. Eventually, I began to serve men.

In serving my spouse, my initial efforts were to support her fledgling artistic efforts. She was trained as a handweaver using a loom, creating fabric which became women’s clothing. She began this as a business. It was never a hobby, converted into a business. She was successful and was approaching the limits of what she could accomplish on her own, with the support of a seamstress. We would frequently discuss the potential for expansion and various possibilities.

I proposed leaving my career in finance to support her artistic efforts. It was clear to me that the greatest contribution I could make to my woman was by directly and personally supporting her business with my labor. We tested this to see if working together everyday was too much time together. We thought it might be detrimental to our relationship and we had no desire to risk our marriage. We found that being a team, day and night, was enjoyable and that we worked well together. I never suggested to my spouse that my working with her was an act of submission. It was an honor to be supportive of her and grow her opportunities while I served in a subservient, unpaid role.

At first, my work with her involved my managing the business aspects and preparing thread for her to use in her weaving. Over time, as her business continued to succeed, we invested in a much larger loom, that included greater automation and computer controlled design technology. She focused her efforts on the designer role, programming the computer, in addition to communicating with her customers and clients. She taught me to became the weaver, operating the loom, and taking responsibility for manufacturing the fabric. I would spend all day at the loom from early morning to late at night.

She was extremely successful with multiple appearances in the most prestigious events and her garments were collected by famous individuals and appeared on the cover of the most popular magazine of the day.

Eventually, she burned out on the design process, we closed the business, and I returned to finance. It was a difficult time for me. Yet, I supported her decision. She was my leader even though she was never domineering.

She developed 3 different cancers, yet I was always totally committed to serving her, and living a Female Led Relationship. Whatever interest she wished to pursue, I would do my utmost to bring it to fruition. I installed several raised garden beds so that she could pursue her passion without the need to bend to ground level. I expanded the paved patio around these beds, as her footing became less stable, and she required the full-time use of a four-wheel walker. Of course, to enhance her independence, I invested in a power lift recliner chair for her comfort. Anything that would increase her satisfaction, I would provide for my Queen, even though I was never dominated. I served as her primary caregiver, and she always remained in our home until she died.

Now, I focus on my work. I manage a team of 12, primarily women, in a corporation of 44,000, with a very high percentage being women. My direct reports include 5 women and 1 man. It’s a privilege to guide them and give them the authority to act independently, and allow them to make the decisions that they know are best. The company participates in an annual survey of employee engagement. My team is surveyed anonymously each year and the high scores they give me are so rewarding. They are amazing people. I constantly encourage them to be the best and strive for excellence. I support them with the freedom to act as the owner of their function, to make decisions, and be independent leaders. It’s deeply rewarding to witness their growth and the pleasure they take in being a valuable member in a highly functioning team. While I could never publicly share with them or anyone in the organization, I truly believe that our success is due to my intent to use the concepts of a Female Led Relationship as my management style.

I have given notice of my upcoming retirement this spring and I am highly focused on finding a new Dominant. As a Gynarchic slave, under the benevolent guidance and direction of Goddess Catherine NO, i intend to grow and deepen my submission to serve a true Dominant.

My new Dominant may find how I have previously implemented the tenets of a FLR, within our new dynamic, useful in her life. I will always be thinking about how I might be a more productive asset for my Dominant. For me, a Female Led Relationship is never about my interests. The only relevant interests are those of my Dominant. It did not begin for me like this. Now, I wish I had learned in my youth, the true path to a successful FLR. It was only as I surrendered, that my interests became subordinated to those of my Dominant.

My primary objective is to please women, in any way possible. Deep conversations that allow me to listen intensely, learn what’s important, and how I can take action to bring pleasure and satisfaction, mean so much to me.

In a new dynamic, if I could be, in some similar way, supportive of my Dominant, enabling her to grow and expand her efforts beyond even her dreams, it would be most rewarding. Of course, my reality will be her decision. I will obey.

If I am fortunate, she will welcome my surrender and guide me into her service.