Femdom Miss Allison Leigh Part 2

What is your favorite fetish?

I’m a true pervert and enjoy a ton of fetishes on all ends of the spectrum. To ask me to pick one is just cruel!

If someone asked you to take them way past their limits, would you?

If they’re asking for it, is it beyond their limits? I will take someone as far as they wish to be pushed. My goal as a Dominant is to show you what you can do.

So how do you know when you’ve pushed the limits of somebody?

If you didn’t know when you started the action that you were pushing a boundary, you’d better hope your empathy is on point- you can see it in how your submissive holds their body, the look on their face, the sound of their breath.

How do you identify the sub’s fantasy and how do you work it into the scene?

It’s important to discuss what a submissive is into long before the scene even starts. The most effective way to find out what someone is into is just initiating casual conversation. I prefer to do this with as much time as possible before the scene, so that I can plan a fully-fleshed out experience- and that gives the submissive plenty of time to feel more comfortable sharing with me.

Do you feel like you understand men better than most women, having seen so many in such a vulnerable state?

I think that kinky people understand humans better on the whole. When someone places themselves in your care, you have to accept them fully, and that can mean accepting things about yourself as well. I was never given any key to the opposite sex- but I have met a lot of people on a much more intimate level than most, and I think that can lend some extra perspective.

Is there anything that you haven’t done within the BDSM world that you wish to?

There are tons of things I look forward to learning and doing. Kink is a continuous growing process, and as a producer I am always getting to create new things. Right now I am setting up an appointment to learn needleplay.

Do your slaves come from any particular area of society or is it a cross section?

Kinksters really come from a cross-section of society. Though of course my clientele is traditionally older men, I have recently been working with a lot of young queer clients.

What qualities should a sub/slave exhibit in your opinion?

I don’t have any list of proscribed qualities a submissive should have. A desire to submit is about the only universal theme between them- and even then, some have qualifiers.

Outside of being a Dominatrix, what are your interests?

I throw kink and art events and write on top of being a Dominatrix, and that take up most of my time. At home I am pretty simple- I love gardening, scratch cooking, and spending time with my boyfriends. I spend a lot of time at the beach. When I can, I try to enjoy someone else’s event or party.

Do you think that BDSM is misunderstood?

I’m sure BDSM is misunderstood to some extent, but acceptance and knowledge is definitely growing. Though the community was up in arms about the release of 50 Shades of Grey, the vocal struggle that ensued did a lot to raise awareness about what consensual kink is really about.

What’s the most fun you have in your activities?

Bringing your submissive to the place they wanted to reach is incredibly satisfying. That’s always the best moment.

Do you ever feel like a therapist instead of a dominatrix?

People often equate BDSM with therapy because both therapists and Mistresses hold an accepting space for people to truly be themselves and grow. Kink and therapy are both very transformative processes.

What are the most common fetishes that you encounter?

By far, the most common fetishes that I encounter are feet and male chastity. Feet are one of the most commonly reported fetishes in the world. I think male chastity is so common because men are traditionally very sex-driven.

Would you be happy for your Daughter/son to follow you into this world?

I would hope that they do something more lucrative with their time, but I would support any hypothetical child of mine in whatever made them happy.

What advice would you have for women who want to introduce dominance & Submission play to their partners?

Without a long conversation, the best advice I could give to anyone who wanted to introduce D/s into their relationship is to clearly communicate their desires. Consider starting with the basic elements of D/s, such as tease and denial- and remember to never take anything too seriously.

Should everyone try this?

I can’t say BDSM is for everyone, but I think safely indulging in your kinks is important for your psychological well-being.

Are butt plugs and strap on sex about the same?

Butt-plugs and strap-ons are not the same. A plug is more of a constant reminder of the ownership of the body- and being fucked with a strap-on represents that ownership being taken.