The 3 Month Experiment of femdom lifestyle

I’m James and I am a submissive man. I have always fantasized about living a Femdom lifestyle.  This is the story of how, one day, my sex life with my wife became interesting. Until then, my wife and I had a pretty normal sex life for a married couple with 3 kids under 6; about twice a week, 3 times if we were lucky. Almost always vanilla on the couch or the carpet as our youngest still co-sleeps and uses our bed. We’re only in our late twenties, but between kids and working two jobs, it’s difficult to make time for each other.

My wife, growing up in a Catholic household, was fairly traditional in what she was exposed to. On top of that, we have both only ever had sex with others. We started dating right after high school and quickly got married. I had never told her that I was a closet sub. When I was a teenager, I watched and read a lot about the femdom lifestyle and bondage. I enjoyed both those with men on top as well as those with women on top; something about the power dynamics drew me I think.

The more I got into it, though, the more I was drawn to the idea of being dominated. I used to try to tie myself up, although that never worked very well. I always had at least one arm free because the last thing I wanted was for my wife to come home to find me naked and tied up. Actually, I kind of did want that, but I was afraid of how she would react.

 

One night, my wife surprised me…

I never could figure out how to really tell Jennifer what turns me on. I was becoming resigned to just having a sex life that, while good, was not exciting. One night a few months ago, something happened that gave me hope for things to come. My wife came out from putting our daughter to sleep with one of my ties in her hand. She blindfolded me with it, stripped me, and told me to lie down. She tied my hands together and to one of the legs of the furniture.

Our supply of toys, which my wife knew about, was relatively small: a dildo, a clitoral stimulator, and some lube. Never having topped before, nor read much about it, she didn’t really know what to do. She walked away for a minute and I was rock hard. I was really turned on. She started running an ice cube around my nipples and up and down my shaft before sucking on me for a minute. Then, she spanked me 3 times while jerking me off. I felt it, but it wasn’t enough to hurt at all. She had said that she felt bad; I told her not to.

Really, I wanted her to let go and give it to me like in the femdom lifestyle stories. Then she rode me for a minute before untying me. We finished with me fucking her on the couch, holding her legs over her head. I told her that I really enjoyed it, even though I wanted a lot more. In case she wanted to try anything else, I put a blindfold and 2 pairs of cuffs from my stash in our sex toy drawer/Jennifer’s underwear drawer.

A few nights later, I gave her the same treatment…

I came out of the bedroom from putting our oldest to sleep and saw the light was on in the bathroom with the door open. I walked in and Jennifer had the blindfold on and had cuffed her hands together above the towel hook. Completely naked, with her short hair and curves, she looked helpless and incredibly hot.

I started by kissing her roughly and started rubbing her clit while biting her nipples. She has a very sensitive clit and almost immediately starts moving her hips up and down on my hand. After a few minutes, I picked up one of her legs and put it on the edge of the tub so I could kneel down and eat her out. I love going down on her. She tastes and smells wonderful. When it seemed like she was getting close, I stopped and turned her around so her large breasts were pushed into the wall. I surprised her by spanking her a few times, although not as long or hard as I think either of us wanted —

In fact, I still was hesitant about how far I should push her. I entered her from behind without saying a word and then took her down from the hook while leaving her cuffed. Then, I sat down on the closed toilet and made her sit and bounce on my still rock-hard dick.

I wanted to come but wasn’t ready for the night to end quite yet. So, I led my blindfolded bride to the living room and laid her down. Then, I pushed her tits together and fucked them as she tried to get to my penis with her tongue. I had her suck her juices off my dick and then I turned around to 69 her. I licked her clit while fingering her ass. She isn’t too comfortable with anal, but a finger into the first knuckle drives her crazy when I’m also playing with her clit. I knew she had orgasmed when she couldn’t stop her hips from bucking faster and faster.

So, I rolled her over and finished fucking her from behind. I uncuffed her and made sure to tell her I loved her. I think that the trust involved in bondage can only improve her relationship and want to make sure that she is thinking along the same lines.

Then, Back to our Normal sex routine for a while!

After we both tried our hands at being on top, our sex life kind of went back to normal for a while. After about two weeks of normal sex, I wanted to see how my wife was feeling. I put Dora on to watch the kids so Jennifer and I could actually talk. I sat down on the couch next to Jennifer while she was looking at Facebook on her laptop.

• “Hey, Jennifer. Could we talk?”

She gave me a funny look since I never use that phrase.

• “Sure. About what?” She said while lowering the laptop screen to look at me.

 

• “I was just wondering what you thought about the, uh, kinkier things we tried the last week before last. I wanted to know if it was something you enjoyed?”

 

• “Kind of. I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing, though.”

 

• “I could send you some websites that might help if you want.”

 

• “Like porn?”

 

• “No, no. Just stories and information.”

 

• “OK. If you send me something, I guess I can read it.”

 

My coming out to my wife as a submissive man!

 

I already had the email prepared. So I just pushed a button on my phone and sent her a link to an erotic fiction site. Specifically, it was the link to the BDSM category with the femdom tag selected.

• “You should get it in a few minutes. Did you like being tied up or doing the tying more?”

 

• “I’m not sure yet.”

I smiled.

• “At least yet means we can try again sometime.”

She smiled too.

• “Yes, we can try again. What about you?”

 

• “What about me?”

 

• “Did you like being tied up or when I was at your mercy?”

 

• “I liked both a lot, but it really, really turns me on when you’re in control. I like the idea of you dominating me, I like the Femdom lifestyle.”

Jennifer didn’t say anything. She bit her lip and started to open the laptop again. I could tell she was thinking.

• “Come on,” I said, taking her hand.

 

• “What is it? The kids are awake. We can’t do anything right now.”

 

• “I know. I just want to show you something in the bedroom.”

 

My suited toys chest for a Femdom lifestyle

We walked into the bedroom and I took out an old suitcase from the closet that we hadn’t ever used. I gave her one of two keys to a small lock on it.

• “What’s in here?” She asked.

 

• “It’s a toy chest. I’ve spent the last 7 years adding things to it now and then in case we ever went down this road. We don’t even have to use any of these things if you’re not comfortable. I just wanted to show you some of the things we have and hope to pique your interest. Let’s take a look. You can read the information I sent you and then we can talk again in a few days when you’ve had some time to process everything.”

For once I couldn’t read Jennifer’s face. She just knelt and unlocked the suitcase. She gasped a little when she opened it. Most things were still in their packages, although I had tried a few things on myself. First, she took out the blunt trauma items… the whips, the floggers, the paddles, and the cane.

• “You really want me to beat you with these?” She asked.

 

• “Only if it turns you on.”

 

Some explanations about the different sex toys!

She took out a Hitachi magic wand, and a few dildos of varying sizes and textures, and then held up something that looked more like a spade from a playing card.

 

• “What is this thing?” she asked without any emotion.

 

• “It’s a butt plug. The narrow part before it expands keeps it from falling out of the butt.”

She put the butt plugs, including an inflatable one, off to the side. A lot of rope, cuffs, gags, and different means of restraints were next.

There were only a few things left now. The few that she was least likely to be comfortable with. Next came the cock toys. She was very confused trying to figure out what the CB-6000 was.

I tried to explain.

• “It’s a cock cage. The circle goes behind my balls and the tube goes over the penis. Then you lock it and keep the key. I can only come if you let me out. I can’t masturbate or even get hard without you.”

She abruptly grabbed my penis through my running shorts.

• “You don’t seem to be having any trouble right now. Would it hurt?”

 

• “I think the only thing that hurts is not being able to come, but that’s part of the attraction. It’s up to you.”

Jennifer then picked up a strap-on harness with a fairly large, realistic-looking 7-inch cock attached.

• “Oh my gosh…” She dropped it. “Am I supposed to fuck you with that? Are you gay?”

 

• “I’m not gay. I never want to suck a guy off or to get fucked by one, but I am curious what it would feel like if you did it. Remember, though, we never have to use anything you’re not comfortable with.”

Jennifer took a deep breath and nodded. The last thing she picked up was long, metal, and heavy. It was a doggy-style locking spreader bar. It had spots for the wrists to go next to the ankles.

• “Go put on the next episode of Dora and come back.”

I did as she said. When I came back, most of the toys were back in the suitcase, but the spreader was on the bed.

• “I want to see how this works if this is really something you’ll like and if this is something I even want to consider. Take off your clothes and get in the spreader,” Jennifer said as she closed the door.

 

To be continued

 

 

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